Daily quotations from caregivers at Around the Dinner Table Forum

Daily quotations from caregivers at Around the Dinner Table Forum

Thursday, September 29, 2011

"We felt like she was so close to attaining real recovery and now to feel like we are headed backwards so quickly."

bulbs,chains,cords,filaments,fixtures,households,incandescent lights,light bulbs,lighting,lights,photographs,wiresMy take on this is that ED has shown it's presence and this is a good thing. It wasn't gone, it was slinking around in the shadows, the light got turned on...this is a good thing as now you and the team know that greater care and vigilance is required. The is feedback, very valuable feedback.
- Mamame from the thread "Feeling very blue"

Tuesday, September 27, 2011
My D is 10 and I went through this very issue!!!!! I advocated (and won) after very strenuously arguing with my FBT to have blind weigh ins. The true maudsley method of open weights is I believe contra-indicated for very young sufferers. Children have no cognitive frame of reference to interpret what the meaning of a number on the scale. Expecting an adolescent response or adult response of desensetization will never apply. They fully support me now. I also had to strenuously advocate for continual shift upward in the goal target weights with my ED physician...My FBT supports me regarding target weight goals and fully supports putting more weight on her as a growing child, particularly since she plays soccer. There is no maintenance according to my FBT there is only growth......and normalizing of eating and lessening of ED behaviors as a target.
- Amoma from the "Weigh Ins once target weight reached" thread
Monday, September 26, 2011
The other day, my 13yr dtr was videotaping her new kitten and caught my son on video at the table.... The thing that struck me to be very odd was that when he looked at the video that evening, he came up to me and asked me " Do the bones in my neck really stick out like that?" He looked totally surprised like someone came up and gave him a punch in the stomach? 

I calmly looked at him and replied "yes, yes they do... do you not see that in the mirror?"  He was absolutley dumbfounded!!  This is the first time he actually seen how he really looks..
-Carol S from the 2009 thread "Mirror, Mirror On The Wall??"

More on Body Dysmorphic Disorder from wikipedia

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Yep, you are seeing the "change back" behavior from your D's ED. It (the ED) is getting cornered and will throw everything it's got back at you. As you continue to insist on healthy, normal behaviors from your D, ones that will bring her back to the health she so richly deserves, you will see lots of angry, negative actions. Many of us have seen exactly what you describe in our own ill children. Your job is to be calm, confident and consistent.  - AnnieK

For more info see our FAQ: Q5. Dealing with resistance to eating and recovery. 

Saturday, September 24, 2011

My daughter will turn 14 end of this year. It is hard, very hard, I have despaired, but now I have reached a state of resolute calm. I have to get my D better and that is my only option. The nature of this disorder is almost such that you have to almost fall down flat before the gravity of the situation hits home for the patient as well as the family members….I have gained a lot of knowledge and wisdom through this website and continue to learn more.
- Sandy from the "Recently Diagnosed" thread

From the Nourishing Words Blog

From the Nourishing Words Blog

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" Anyway....the dress fear came with ed"
"My son has about 6 - 10 pounds to gain."
"we have spent a FORTUNE on groceries "
"and how aggressive must we be??!!."
"We find ourselves stuck in a strange situation"
"We are trying to do family based treatment "
"she will not open up to her therapist. "
"Let us not become weary of doing good."

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