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(Families Empowered and Supporting Treatment of Eating Disorders)

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The Role of Parents

Parents do not cause eating disorders.

That statement may seem obvious, but it is the sad history of eating disorder treatment that parents have often been blamed or felt blamed when a loved one develops an eating disorder. This crippling and discredited thinking was also once the case for other illnesses that we now understand are neither given nor chosen: asthma, stuttering, autism, schizophrenia.

For those families suffering from guilt, from feeling blamed, or unsure of who to believe on this topic:

  • A short video of eating disorder experts, and the head of the US National Institute of Mental Health, answering the question Do Parents Cause Eating Disorders?" posed by F.E.A.S.T.'s director, Laura Collins.
  • A statement by the Genetics of Anorexia Nervosa collaboration
  • A statement by the US National Eating Disorders Association
  • F.E.A.S.T. Position Statement "Parents Do Not Cause Eating Disorders" signed by eating disorder advisors and leaders around the world.

    Parents do not cause eating disorders, but can be an important and active part of recovery:
  • Parents can provide a safe environment for recovery in their home
  • Parents can seek and evaluate clinical treatment options
  • Parents can take control of eating and food until the patient is able to do so independently
  • Parents can insist on effective treatment whether the patient is living at home, in hospital, or in long-term residential care
  • Parents can quit or cut back on other obligations to concentrate on supporting a loved one
  • Mothers and fathers can support each other emotionally and practically
  • Parents can insist on treatment that ensures full nutrition and normalizing eating behaviors
  • Parents can put boundaries on eating disorder and activity behaviors in their homes
  • Parents can offer financial assistance while a loved one is out of work
  • Parents can refuse to financially support a loved one who is not in effective treatment
  • Parents can refuse to support ineffective treatment
  • Parents can become educated in eating disorders by consulting evidence-based experts and reading widely in professional and lay literature
  • Parents can form educated opinions on treatment
  • Parents can insist on communication with the treatment team
  • Parents can be part of the treatment team
  • Parents can pay for treatment and keep a patient insured
  • Parents can educate extended relatives and community about the current science in eating disorders
  • Parents can take care of siblings and extended family affected by the illness
  • Parents can offer emotional support during the suffering of eating disorder recovery
  • Parents can give up activities and habits that conflict with a loved one's recovery
  • Parents can insist on patients signing waivers for communication with treatment providers
  • Parents can put aside conflicts with spouse or other family members to present a common voice to the patient
  • Parents can speak out in the media about how eating disorders affect the whole family
  • Parents can get involved with advocacy and education in the eating disorder world
  • Parents can make personal changes based on what they learn about eating disorders
  • Parents can offer support to other families struggling with this disease
  • Parents can seek treatment for themselves if they have illnesses or eating disordered behaviors
  • Parents can refuse to give up

  • Tools for Families

    • The Off the CUFF book published by Duke University's Eating Disorder Program
    • The Carer's Toolkit based on the Skills-Based program by Janet Treasure offers a view of caregiving styles and how to best support a loved one.
    • The Assessment of the Family of People with Eating Disorders from a 2008 piece in the European Eating Disorders Review
    • Standards for Family-Centered Care in hospitals
    • Sample College Transition Contract


    F.E.A.S.T. 
    (Families Empowered And Supporting Treatment of Eating Disorders)

    P.O. Box 331  ♦ Warrenton, VA 20188  ♦  USA  ♦   (540) 227-8518  ♦  info@FEAST-ED.org 
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